2.\tIt’s not that if you are sweet to that person then he will love you more. Maybe he will, maybe he won’t. But that is not the point to be good and to be noble. To be good, to be noble is for ourselves because we choose to be that way, we want to keep being that way, and we feel good about it. It’s not because, “Okay, now he needs me more. If I show more sympathy, then our love will be stronger.” It’s not even to be considered.
3.\tBut most of the time we fail the test. When people are in most difficulty, we just leave them, or we are cold and indifferent. “Oh, you’re not nice to me. All right, all right. You’ll come and need me soon.” Of course they will. When they’re in a better mood, when everything goes better, of course they’ll come around. But then it’s too late. Then it is not love anymore. It’s just a need for each other. That’s different, because you are used to each other and you need each other sometimes out of habit, out of convenience, out of financial security reasons —anything. But it’s not true love. True Love Always Prevails.
4.\tTrue love is we stick together in “thick and thin”. Especially when it’s thin, when it’s troublesome. Then we should really bridge over the “troubled water”. That’s what they say in English. But most of us fail the test, to ourselves, not to our partners. He might leave you; he might stay with you, because you’re nice or not nice. But you fail yourself. You leave yourself. You leave the noblest being that you really are. So we should check up on this to our family members or whomever that is beloved and dear to us. Most of the time in critical situations, we just turn our backs and that is no good.
5.\tOf course we have our anger, our frustrations, because our partners are not as loving as usual, or whomever that is; but he or she is in a different situation. At that time, she or he is in mental suffering. It’s just as bad as or even worse than physical suffering. Physical suffering you can take